In Response

This post is my response to some of the lovely comments on my guest post on Diffuse 5. Consider it a response to the equally thoughtful comments on my original post.

You’d think that having come out as Bi 16 years ago that I wouldn’t still be questioning my sexuality at 30. (Yes I came out at 14) But there it is.

I think that a combination of feeling rejected by the Lesbian community and ease of dating in the straight community pushed me into heterosexual relationships much more than I would have otherwise naturally been inclined. It was only by presenting myself as either a Lesbian, or as someone who formerly identified as Bi but was now only interested in women, that I was able to gain access to the woman-loving community that I craved.

I do think that I am far more orientated towards women, at least at this point in my life, but that doesn’t invalidate my feelings towards men or make me feel less ambiguous about how I identify. (Or feel less like a traitor for not championing the term Bi quite so much.)

Having said all that, there are communities that are very accepting of Bisexuals–my high school Gay-Straight Alliance was one of them. (It really was better in High School in some ways.)

If you’re in the Boston area I recommend checking out biresource.net and biwomenboston.org. (They both have links to other regions.)

If you’re really feeling adventurous you can check out http://polyboston.org. I find the local poly crowd to be very open-minded–if a bit on the nerdy side–and they throw nice family friendly parties.

Anyway, thanks for the intelligent and thoughtful comments and good luck on your journeys!

1 Comment

  1. I usually get bored easily and close the tab but i honestly enjoyed what i read. Grats !


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