So most of the time, like Sasha, I enjoy playing “Spot The Lesbian.” Although the hardcore butches aren’t much challenge for this sport (for them the game is: how do I get this butch to notice me?), there’s plenty of-in-between women (and men) for me to test my gaydar on. I also like to see [...]
How Many Gays Must God Create?
If only there were more Minnesotans (and humans) like this guy:
Gaydar Fail: Straight Butch Professionals
So my Gaydar has failed me three times recently–okay, make that 2 1/2 times. The first time was the bright blue-eyed, polished butch who waits at my bus stop. I was sure, make that positive–that she was a lesbian. Well, I was sure until she slid the words “my husband” almost guiltily into a sentence [...]
How You Gonna No Homo That?
So I ain’t tryin’a hate on Nicki Minaj–I think she’s really talented. She outshines every other artist that she shares a track with and it’s f@cking unfair that there seems to be this unspoken rule that there can only be one top female artist at a time, so that everyone wants that artist to be [...]
You Gotta Fight For Your Rights
Found on Stud With Swag
You Might Be A Lesbian If…
While kissing your boyfriend you keep thinking of how his mouth reminds you of eating pussy. After your boyfriend goes down on you you barely think about it the next day except to kind-of wish he hadn’t–but when a woman kisses you that night for less than three minutes you can’t stop thinking about her [...]
Adventures in the BBW District Part 1
We walked into the room like a thicker, sexier, lesbian version of Girlfriends. (Wait, does that make me Lynn? I am the lightest, thinnest of the four of us, and I have been known to be something of a hippy…okay I’m Lynn lol) Four femmes walking across the room and we were invisible. I found [...]
It Get’s Better–Unless You’re Bi
There’s a lot of Bi Phobia in the Gay Community. It’s easier to tell most straight people you’re a Lesbian then to tell some Lesbians that you are Bi.
When I rode on the Bi Float at Pride people did cheer, just not as loud as for the floats ahead and behind us. People also heckled us. .
“You’re half way there” One man called out
A drag queen lectured the crowd about how everyone should “give us a hand” because “being Bi isn’t easy.” When you’re bring pitied by a drag queen– that’s just sad.
I get it–I do. Women don’t want to think about their girlfriend leaving them-or cheating on them with-a man.
I get that. But think about it–if I leave you for someone else, won’t it hurt whoever I am leaving you for?
A person can’t help who they are attracted to. They can control how they act on those attractions, but why should I have to cram my relationships into your box?
I had myself convinced for years that although I had this powerful attraction for women, I was fine with just appreciating them, but not actually acting on those feelings. I was convinced that on a day-to-day basis I would be happier with a man.
And then she kissed me.
And introduced me to Dyke Nights.
And I felt that there was no going back to men.
But then I met him.
Dammit still Bi!
And I feel like I can’t tell my lesbian friends about him.
